Putting Recovery First

Putting Recovery First

My therapist looked at me with kind eyes and said “you are a relational person.  There is no need to beat yourself up over that.  You are here to learn how to balance the person you are with the person you want to be.  That’s all we are doing...
Learning by Observing

Learning by Observing

On a trip to Kenya, I was blown away to find that our interpreter, a man who had lived nearly all his life in China, spoke not only exquisite Swahili, but also perfect English. I asked him how he had gotten so good at both, and he told me that he had decided to spend...
Communication in Recovery

Communication in Recovery

Spending time with family around the holidays has reminded me of how much my idea of healthy communication has changed over the years. Dishonesty and manipulation were such a substantial part of my addiction, as I imagine it is with most, and that certainly made most...
All Part of the Process

All Part of the Process

When I worked in a residential treatment center, it was all too common for clients to band together around their frustrations around the perceived restrictions and rules. After spending many precious hours of group therapy time attempting to redirect engagements...
Addiction, Attachment, and the Messiness of Early Recovery

Addiction, Attachment, and the Messiness of Early Recovery

Addiction began being conceptualized as an attachment-related disorder as early as 2001. Research in this area gave additional credibility to the community model of treating addictions and has fostered further efforts to be devoted to cultivating effective group...